How To Turn Insecurity Into Confidence

Echoing a question gives you time to catch up when you are feeling nervous. It's also an easy form of mirroring, which helps you connect with the other person. Because when you repeat someone's words back to them, it can help build feelings of likeability, trust and rapport.

When your mind goes blank during conversations, all your normal wit and charm disappear. The echo technique really helps to buy yourself a few seconds of time to think (in a way that seems unforced).

This is the first step of overcoming your fear of being judged by others. Being able to laugh at yourself is a great marker of confidence. And it makes you more fun to be around.

You can start practicing laughing at yourself by sharing embarrassing stories from your distant past. You still get to practice, but without highlighting any flaws you may have in the present.

• If you are in a situation where you can't stop thinking about how nervous you are that you cannot perform or connect, it can be better to share how you are feeling with a smile, rather than try to hide it.
• This can even make you more likable and make other people more comfortable with their own nervousness.
• Revealing your insecurities with a smile can also help you overcome your fear of being judged because it emphasizes the idea that you are not ashamed of who you are.

1. Take the situation you want to stop feeling nervous in
2. Find a low stakes way to mimic it
3. Get some repetitions in.

Social courage is a muscle that is transferable. So if you push your comfort zone even in one area, it will bleed out in all the others.

Reframe success and failure. 

Reframe success as doing anything that improves you. So even when you are rejected, as long as you reflect on what went wrong and how you can do better when you're in that situation again, that's a win.