Maybe you're getting ready to give a big speech or presentation. Or perhaps you're prepping to interview for your dream job or an important stretch project. Then, it happens. You can feel your breath leave your body. The nerves take over. You feel like the poster child for imposter syndrome.
Remind yourself how awesome you are with affirmations. Write down affirmations that remind you of your capabilities and strengths and keep them somewhere you can find them if nerves strike.
Another suggestion is to keep a file of praise, awards, and other evidence of how good you are at your job an read them when you are struggling with a confidence crisis.
Take a moment to really analyze what you’re feeling and strategize for that.
Can you reframe negative feelings, like fear, into something more positive, like anticipation? If not, remind yourself that it’s perfectly normal to be nervous before a high-stakes situation.
It goes without saying, we all fuck up big time. That's obvious. Of course, some of us are better at it than others, but that's kind of obvious too. And then there are those who string along coulda-shoulda moments throughout their life like the toilet paper I used to string up along my neighbor's house as a kid - a failure so consistent, it borders on art.
That reticence to ever ask someone out on a date probably plays out in your failure to move to a new city, to take that new job or the timidity around your co-workers.
People don’t like it when someone changes or does something that makes them feel awkward or insecure. They will think he’s crazy, selfish, arrogant. If you want to do something incredible, you have to become comfortable with being different from the rest.
As cliche as that sounds. Most of us give up on something we’re passionate about too soon. But anyone who’s been successful has a tale of struggle and perseverance to share.
He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else. - Benjamin Franklin Do you ever catch yourself making excuses when things don't entirely go your way? Have you ever neglected taking responsibility for the events and circumstances of your life?
To successfully eliminate excuses we must first consider removing all traces of fear. Fear paralyzes us and prevents forward movement in all areas of our lives.
This excuse means a lack of desire, focus, discipline, and direction. It suggests the wrong priorities or time management problems. It could also indicate laziness or procrastination.