Take things one at a time

Focus on what you are great at, and what you want to do for the rest of your life, as time is a limited resource, and you cannot be great at everything. Attain mastery by focusing on one thing and utilizing your time well, instead of being distracted with multiple options.

... organizations should insist that staffers first try to come up with their own solutions. 

One problem with group brainstorming is that when we hear someone else’s solution to a problem, we tend to see it as what  an “anchor - we get stuck on that objective and potential solution ...

It can be helpful to get support and validation from your friends, but too much dissucsion of wrongs perpetrated by other can lead to a dynamic in your relationships that's negative and gossipy and lends to more reinforcement of the frustration of the situation than finding solutions and closure....