What causes insecurity in a relationship

What causes insecurity in a relationship

If your partner feels insecure, it’s because they haven’t dealt with whatever is putting them in a negative state

This could be that their needs aren’t being met by your relationship, or it could have to do with something outside your union, like their own lack of self-confidence or fear of the unknown.

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How to overcome romantic insecurity

The best thing you can do is effectively communicate with your partner.

How does your partner communicate? What’s their communication styleIt will take time, effective communication and the desire to improve your relationship to overcome romantic insecurity.

Meet each other’s needs

There are basic human needs that affect every single person on the planet. 

  • We all strive to feel certain that we can avoid pain and gain pleasure; 
  • we crave variety in life; 
  • we want to feel significant
  • connection to others is essential 
  • growth and contribution help us find fulfillment. 
Balance your polarity

In every relationship, there is one partner with masculine energy and another with feminine energy. 

If both partners take on masculine or feminine traits, it can cause insecurities to arise. Look at how your roles have changed over time. How can you restore polarity and banish insecurity?

Act like you’re a new couple

When you start dating someone new, the energy is electrifying. As you become better acquainted with your partner, the fireworks you first felt start to fizzle. 

Bring back the passion in your relationship and act like you did when you started dating. Compliment your partner. Plan surprising dates. These small acts can help to squash insecurities and help your partner feel wanted.

Create new stories

Instead of insisting that your partner always does something that irritates you, try shifting your mindset.

Accept your partner for who they are and decide to create a beautiful new story together instead of reliving past pain.

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Avoidant Attachment Style

An avoidant attachment style often stems from a parent who was unavailable or rejecting during your infancy. Since your needs were never regularly or predictably met by your caregiver, you were forced to self-soothe.

As someone with an avoidant-dismissive attachment style:

  • You don’t feel you need others.
  • The more someone tries to get close to you, the more you tend to withdraw.
  • You’re uncomfortable with your emotions.
  • You’re prone to minimize or disregard your partner’s feelings.

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People who consistently undermine or cause harm to a partner (whether intentionally or not) often have a reason for their behavior, even if it’s subconscious. 

Maybe they were in a toxic relationship, either romantically or as a child. Maybe they didn’t have the most supportive, loving upbringing. They could have been bullied in school. They could be suffering from an undiagnosed mental health disorder.

The “female‑demand, male‑withdrawal” is the most known conflict pattern in heterosexual couples.

This happens when women start complaining or initiate criticism and men respond by withdrawing.

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