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Gaurav Bhasin
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Why We Blame
Blame is a defense mechanism. What we’re defending ourselves from is our own responsibility for dealing with the unpleasant experience we’ve been given.
The benefit in blame is that it allows us to avoid feeling like we’re failing ourselves, that we lack the strength and maturity to come to terms with the reality of unfairness or bad luck.
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The Inner Paradox
Due to so many factors at play, parents are relying on good luck, pulling off a gamble on the child that is being raised. They don't have much leverage on the outcome, the net result of the actions of their offspring.
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How I finally learned to sleep
The Elixir of Life
Insomniacs must know that sleep is natural, and normal, with each of us having the ...
Tips for Sleeping
- Get up at the same time every morning.
- Write affirmations to tell yourself that your body knows how to sleep.
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- Use your bed is for sleep and sex only.
- Don't lie awake for more than 20 minutes on the bed, and if you can't sleep, get up and try to do some calming activity like folding laundry.
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Our body will take care of itself if left on its own. It is our mind which is the culprit, running like a motor, inducing low-grade anxiety inside us.
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- Self-loathing
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