• When you criticize someone without taking even two seconds to show you care, your guidance feels obnoxiously aggressive to the recipient.
• If you can’t be Radically Candid, being obnoxiously aggressive is the second-best thing you can do.
• At least then people know what you thi...

• Their life story, right from kindergarten.
• Their hopes and dreams.
• Their two-year plan.

To build Radically Candid relationships, do not try to prevent, control, or manage other people’s emotions. Do acknowledge them and react compassionately when emotions run high. And do try to master your reactions to other people’s emotions.

Giving guidance as quickly and as informally as possible is an essential part of Radical Candor.

• Say it in 2–3 minutes between meetings.
• Keep slack time in your calendar, or be willing to be late. Don’t "save up" guidance for a 1:1 or a performance review.
• Guidance has ...

Radical Candor" is what happens when you put "Care Personally" and "Challenge Directly” together.

The most surprising thing about Radical Candor may be that its results are often the opposite of what you fear. You fear people will become angry or vindictive; instead, they are usuall...

• First, you have to listen to the ideas that people on your team have and create a culture in which they listen to each other.
• Next, you have to create a space in which ideas can be sharpened and clarified, to make sure these ideas don’t get crushed before everyone f...

• I start with being humble because it’s absolutely essential when delivering both praise and criticism.
• Furthermore, a common concern that people raise about giving feedback is "What if I’m wrong?" My answer is that you may very well be wrong. And telling somebody what you think gives...

A great way to get to know somebody and to build trust is to offer Radically Candid praise and criticism

• Radically Candid praise: "I admire that about you"
• Radically Candid criticism: To keep winning, criticize the wins.
• Ask the team: Is there anything I could do or...

Public criticism tends to trigger a defensive reaction and make it much harder for a person to accept they’ve made a mistake and to learn from it.

• Corrections, factual observations, disagreements, and debates are different from criticism.
• Criticizing a ...

• Steep growth is generally characterized by rapid change—learning new skills or deepening existing ones quickly. It’s not about becoming a manager—plenty of individual contributors remain on a steep growth trajectory their entire careers, and plenty of managers are on a gradu...

Here are a few things you can do to make sure you and each of your reports are getting the most out of these 1:1 meetings:

Mindset: Your mindset will go a long way in determining how well the 1:1s go.

Frequency: Time doesn’t scale, but it’s a...

This simple technique reminds you to describe three things when giving feedback:

1) the situation you saw,

2) the behaviour (i.e., what the person did, either good or bad), and

3) the impact you observed.

Situation, behaviour, and impact ...

• Manipulatively insincere guidance happens when you don’t care enough about a person to challenge directly.
• People give praise and criticism that is manipulatively insincere when they are too focused on being liked or think they can gain some sort of political advantage by being fake—...

• Be relentlessly insistent on bringing your fullest and best self to work—and taking it back home again.
• Don’t think of it as work-life balance, some kind of zero-sum game where anything you put into your work robs your life and anything you put into your life robs your work. Instead,...

Sometimes we’re overwhelmed by our work and personal lives, and these are the moments when it is hardest to learn from our results and to start the whole cycle over again. That’s why you are at the very center of the wheel that moves you forward as a manager. You’ve got to take care of yourself, ...

Execution is a solitary task. We use calendars mostly for collaborative tasks—to schedule meetings, etc. One of your jobs as a manager is to make sure that collaborative tasks don’t consume so much of your time or your team’s time that there’s no time to execute whatever plan has been decided on ...

• A leader at Apple had a good way to think about different types of ambition that people on her team had so that she could be thoughtful about what roles to put people in.
• To keep a team cohesive, you need both rock stars and superstars.
• The rock stars love th...

Your role will be to encourage that process of listening, clarifying, debating, deciding, persuading, and executing to the point that it’s almost as if your team shares one mind when it comes to completing projects, and then learning from their results

• It’s a basic axiom that people do better work when they find that work meaningful. Bosses who take this to mean that it is their job to provide purpose tend to overstep. 
• Insisting that people have passion for their job can place unnecessary pressure on both boss and employee.

• The world is full of advice here, and what is enormously Stick To The Basicsmeaningful for one person is pure crap for another.
• Do whatever works for you. The key, I’ve found, is to prioritize doing it (but not overdoing it) when times get tough.
• Here’s what I need to do to s...

Here are some simple things you can do to make sure you’re hiring the right people:

• Job description: define team fit as rigorously as you define skills to minimize bias.
• Blind skills assessments can also minimize bias
• Use the sa...

• Stating your intention to be helpful can lower defenses. When you tell somebody that you aren’t trying to bust their chops—that you really want to help.
• Show, don’t tell. It’s the best advice I’ve ever gotten for story-telling, but it also applies to...

• Ruinous Empathy is responsible for the vast majority of management mistakes I’ve seen in my career. Most people want to avoid creating tension or discomfort at work.
• Similarly, praise that’s ruinously empathetic is not effective because its primary goal is to make the person feel bet...

• We are often told that changing our position makes us a "flip-flopper" or "erratic" or "lacking principles.".
• The key, of course, is communication. Someone might reasonably complain, "Just two months ago you convinced me of X and now you’re telling me maybe not-X after all?"
• ...

• "Why?"
• "How can I help?"
• "What can I do or stop doing that would make this easier?"
• "What wakes you up at night?"
• "What are you working on that you don’t want to work on?"

It’s hard enough to get yourself to listen to your team members and let them know you are listening; getting them to listen to one another is even harder.

The keys are:

• Have a simple system for employees to use to generate ideas and voice complaints.
• Make sure th...

• Cancellations by your team.
• Updates only, with no constructive talk.
• If you hear only good news, it’s a sign people don’t feel comfortable coming to you with their problems, or they think you won’t or can’t help.