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De-escalate Office Tension

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De-escalate Office Tension

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Don’t accuse

Be conscious not to point blame at your partner by phrasing sentences that start with words such as “You make me... “ or “You didn’t…

Instead, begin by saying, “I feel hurt when…” or “I’m upset when…” Your partner will be less likely to be defensive if you don’t sound as though you’re in attack mode.

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Touch often

Touch often

Communication is not only verbal. Hold hands. Kiss him or her hello and goodbye. Let your partner know without words just how much he or she means to you. 

Touching coupled with the right language can add depth to your relationship that words cannot.

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Remain open

Problems tend to build as opposed to disappearing when we keep issues that are bothering us bottled up inside. 

If you’re having a problem, raise it with your partner, bearing in mind your delivery.

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Be consistent

Be consistent

Healthy communication happens during the smallest of moments, not only at meals and when you’re on vacation. Speak nicely to your partner and try your best not to let stress or other distractions get the best of you. 

A devoted husband or wife will want to support you when you n...

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Compliment your partner

Little acknowledgments here and there communicate to your partner that you notice him or her and are happy he or she is a part of your life. If your husband cooked you a special dinner, acknowledge it. If your wife had her hair done, tell her how lovely she looks.

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Ask questions

Not everyone is forthcoming with information, especially if something is bothering them. 

Make it a habit of asking your partner how he or she is doing and how his or her day was, even if your spouse is not always interested in speaking with you at length at that exact moment. 

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Listen

Listen

Once you voice what’s bothering you, be sure to hear how your partner responds. Give him or her a chance to speak and listen to what he or she says. 

It may be that you’re misinterpreting the behavior, he or she wasn’t conscious of how you feel, or you’re doing or saying something to i...

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Use “I Messages”

A sentence starting with “You...” comes off as more of a judgment or an attack and puts people on the defensive.

If you start with “I,” the focus is more on how you are feeling and how you are affected by their behavior. Also, it shows more ownership of your reactions and less blame....

Validate your own emotions

Defensiveness sabotages your ability to be a good listener. People become defensive when they feel threatened in a relationship.

The best way to avoid defensiveness and continue to listen well, even when you're upset, is to practice validating your own emotions. Say to yourself tha...

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