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4 Way to Stop Negative Self-Talk
How You Should Talk To Yourself
Search your heart on how you want to speak with yourself and hence, feel about yourself. Your answer has to be affirmative (formulate your sentences using “do” instead of “don’t, ” etc. ), written in the first person, and in the present tense.
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How You Should Talk To Yourself
Search your heart on how you want to speak with yourself and hence, feel about yourself. Your answer has to be affirmative (formulate your sentences using “do” instead of “don’t, ” etc. ), written in the first person, and in the present tense.
Take a Break From Social Media
Studies show that social media increases self-criticism. Instead, spend some time paying attention to yourself and how you feel and see your life through your own eyes.
If you cannot be with yourself or speak to yourself respectfully, you shouldn’t expect others to.
Write Out The Insults You Say To Yourself
Seeing it on a piece of paper will make it more obvious to you how self-deprecating your thoughts really are.
Your thoughts run so swiftly, you may not register it if you’re not paying attention. Writing it allows you to slow down and see the absurdity in your own negative self-talk.
Treat Yourself Like A Friend
If you catch yourself on a self-deprecating rant, check in with yourself and ask, “Would I say this to _____? ” If the answer is “no, ” then you don’t deserve to be spoken to in that way either. Don’t let these insults pass without defending yourself against your own negative self-talk.
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Acknowledge The Negative Thoughts
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Consider The Cause
Take some time to consider where these negative thoughts come from and confront them.
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Take a negative thought and change it to something encouraging that's also accurate. Repeat until you find yourself needing to do it less and less often.
Notice And Stop That Thought
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Say It Out Loud
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Keep a Journal
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You can create a two-column journal. In the first column, keep notes on any self-criticism that comes up throughout the day. Later, rewrite the first column in more empowering or positive ways to reframe it.
Learn How To Take a Step Back
If you’re beating yourself up over something, picture someone that you love in your shoes and think what would you say or do to support them. This allows you to take a step back and practice a little self-compassion, it can help to keep things in perspective.
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