• People are spending only a small part of their time on judging you; your self-judgment is overwhelmingly larger.
• People who seem to be mean don’t usually do it intentionally. There are exceptions, but generally, the hurt you feel is a side-effect.

People are forgetful by nature (especially with information they don't find relatable), so don’t assume hostility or disinterest if something is forgotten.

Most of the time you feel something, nobody else knows about it. So don’t get angry when people aren’t responding to you.

We are social animals and we feel especially sensitive to any threats to becoming ostracized.

Don't assume everything is fine just because someone isn’t having a nervous breakdown.

It happens when helping you directly or indirectly helps me. And our behavior is largely dictated by it.