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Learn to Respond, Not React : zen habits

Responding

Consider what the most intelligent and compassionate response might be. What can we do that will help our relationship, teach, build a better team or partnership, make the situation better, calm everyone down, including ourselves? 

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Responding

Consider what the most intelligent and compassionate response might be. What can we do that will help our relationship, teach, build a better team or partnership, make the situation better, calm everyone down, including ourselves? 

Pausing To Prevent Reactions

We must pause for however long it takes and prevent immediate actions based on internal reactions. We can watch the urge to act irrationally arise, breathe, and then let it go away.

If necessary excuse yourself and return to the issue only when you’re confident you can respond and not react.

Being Mindful To Prevent Reactions

To be mindful, pay close attention to how your mind reacts. It means watching yourself when something happens that might normally trigger some kind of emotional reaction.

Response And Reaction

A reaction is a thoughtless action often based on emotions, and it’s not the most rational or appropriate way to act. 

Responding, on the other hand, is taking the situation in, and deciding the best course of action based on values such as reason, compassion, cooperation, etc.

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