Practice distinguishing how you feel physically from how you feel emotionally. Because many negative emotional states develop out of a misinterpretation of a physical feeling.
It’s dangerous to assume that physical feelings and emotional feelings are always related. Sometimes a headache is just a headache.
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Use plain language. The more fluent you are with real emotional language, the more clearly you will be able to think about how you’re feeling.
Get used to the idea of emotional complexity. When we feel upset, we're not feeling one single emotion. We are usually experiencing a blend of many emotions.
Training ourselves to look for and see this emotional complexity is key to better understanding ourselves when we’re upset and moving on in a healthy way.
Emotions don’t actually last very long. It’s in the nature of emotions to be intense but fleeting:
We all tend to have a particular emotion that they’re especially afraid of and try to avoid.
Identifying your own personal emotional kryptonite is important because many of our bad decisions and ill-advised behaviors are actually the results of trying to avoid particularly uncomfortable emotions.
In everyday language, people often use the terms "emotions" and "moods", but psychologists actually make distinctions between the two.
How do they differ?
An emotion is normally quite short-lived, but intense. Emotions are also likely to have a definite and identifiable cause.
For example, after disagreeing with a friend over politics, you might feel angry for a short period of time.
A mood, on the other hand, is usually much milder than an emotion, but longer-lasting.
In many cases, it can be difficult to identify the specific cause of a mood. For example, you might find yourself feeling gloomy for several days without any clear, identifiable reason.
Emotional clarity refers to the extent to which you know, understand and are clear about which emotions you are feeling and why you are feeling them.
Emotional clarity is key to being proactive in changing circumstances or thoughts that lead to emotions, as well as to enacting effective emotional regulation strategies.