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The Best Way To Give Advice To Someone.

Get to the point

Our attention span is only decreasing as time goes on and so those who can get to the point will win in this new attention economy.

Your advice may be amazing, but it will never be heard if you can’t get to the point.

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The Best Way To Give Advice To Someone.

The Best Way To Give Advice To Someone.

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Tell a story

Dry information and stats don’t inspire people to make a change or listen to you.

We don't usually remember facts, figures or statistics. Storytelling is how you make your advice human, relatable and real.

Keep your story short and concise. 

Chunk it down

Chunk your advice down into simple steps that your audience can follow. 

Aim for three steps or three takeaways if it’s possible in the context of your advice.

Have a good structure

Be logical with your advice and structure it in a way that makes sense. Be sure to have an introduction, a body and a conclusion that highlights the takeaways.

This makes your advice easier to follow and more likely to be retained.

Be respectful

No one likes to be spoken down to and you have your own issues. You’re not perfect either. Remember that whenever you’re giving advice.

Even if your audience disagrees with your advice, they’ll respect you if you respect them first.

Get to the point

Our attention span is only decreasing as time goes on and so those who can get to the point will win in this new attention economy.

Your advice may be amazing, but it will never be heard if you can’t get to the point.

Make it inspirational

Advice that is simultaneously inspiring works. 

Being inspired is how you get people’s attention. Inspiration makes us feel good and positivity always wins.

Use your own experience

It is the best advice you can give. No one has exactly the same story or list of experiences as you, so that’s what makes your advice truly unique.

Inject emotion to your message. Emotion is what can make your advice feel universal.

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Reminding people about their core values before any advice is provided, makes them more receptive towards it.

When the person thinks about their core values, an area of their brain called the Ventromedial Prefrontal Cortex (VMPC) gets activated, making them take some tangible action towards your advice. This pre-suasion before we influence any person (for their own good) is important and essential if we want them to follow genuine advice.

Relate
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Know your audience

Take note of your audience's preferred method of reasoning and decision making, then tailor your advice accordingly.

Use analogies

Avoid long, descriptive explanations and break things down with simple analogies. Use analogies based around common knowledge or things you know your audience would be knowledgeable about.

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Avoid tension and build rapport
Avoid tension and build rapport

This underscores the importance of starting on the right foot.  If you upset the person you’re trying to help, they’ll wall themselves off. 

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Focus on collaboration

To get someone to act on your advice, it’s going to mean giving up at least some of the credit for it. 

When the person receiving your advice feels like they had a hand in creating it—with guidance from you, the expert, of course—they’re far more likely to act on it.

Show your work

In this case, you’re showing your work because it instills trust, and trust is critical for acceptance. 

When you show you work, the person you’re advising doesn’t have to take your recommendations on blind faith. They can see exactly how you got to your advice and buy into it along the way.

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  • Don't make your request too specific.
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When we ask for help, we tend to unconsciously add unnecessary details that enhance our image, justify or even state a request instead. When asking for help, take the bass out of your voice, the stiffness out of your spine, and the captain out of your industry and just say, with sincerity and humility: "Can you help me?"

Few people, especially face-to-face, will ever say "no," even a stranger. 

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Tweet-friendly headlines

Steve Jobs's intro sentences were so great because they clearly outlined what the product did while creating intrigue.

Rather than rambling on, he used them to perfectly convey his message as compactly as possible.

Examples of one sentence summaries of the product he was presenting: "Mac Book Air: the world's thinnest notebook", and "iPod: One thousand songs in your pocket."

Tailor to the audience

Whether you're networking or presenting, it's important to realize that it should never be a one-sided conversation.

Your audience is in the room for a particular reason. It's critical to understand why they're listening to you so you can tune your presentation in a manner that makes them more receptive listeners,

Make The Readers Feel Something

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Structure And Revise

You need to have a beginning that builds to a middle and an ending, or at least an idea of where you’re going, as it is key to explore your themes and foreshadow things properly.

Another important thing is to revise your writings. Your first draft is likely to contain multiple errors, poorly phrased sections, and inconsistencies.

Surprise The Reader

To do it, you must know what your audience expects from the type of writing you’re doing and then defy it.

Without the surprise, without the twist, if you don’t pull the wool over the audience’s eyes, then it’s unlikely you’re going to be memorable. It’s precisely the fact that things are not what they seem that makes a story interesting.

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Offer information

When giving advice, people with more experience often make the mistake of assuming that they know best.

To offer expertise in a way that's truly helpful, use it to inform the person about the decision at hand. Tell them what you know about their options, possibly offering a recommendation, then let them use that information to make a sound decision.

Help think through the problem

Instead of imposing your opinion, guide them through the process you might use to reach a conclusion. Ask the questions you would ask yourself, and give them an opportunity to talk through the options with you. That approach will help build problem-solving skills that translate to future dilemmas.

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Epiphanies

When you deliver a talk, your audience wants to learn something compelling enough to move them into action.

For this reason, place four to six anchor points throughout the talk that is insightful and compelling. Even common knowledge can be turned into an epiphany if emphasized uniquely or applied to the audience's specific circumstance.

A transformation

People want to change something because of you.

  • Point out what needs to change about their behavior
  • Why they need to change
  • How they can start the change

As yourself "What's the first step the audience can take to begin the transformation I'm focussing on?"

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The Fear of Public Speaking

Public speaking is often topping the charts as the No. 1 fear in the world.

People feel anxious, sweaty, or have a pounding heart while being on stage in front of an audience.

Practice

A great way to remove a large portion of fear is to practice hard, studying the topic wellYou can research all questions that the audience may ask, and practice the speech in front of a mirror or in front of friends.

Practicing soothes our nerves, making us ready for the final audience.

Bigger Than Your Fears
Finding something bigger than your fear, greater than your anxiety, is a key strategy to get rid of the natural negative emotions.
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You don’t care enough about the audience

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The Words and the Design

The work on the presentation slides should be clear, crisp, concise, with fewer words and more visually striking simple imagery.

Long sentences and tiny words going through the whole slide are not advisable.

Lack of Practice

Invest your time practicing thoughtfully and getting in a zone where you are a natural.

An effortless-looking presentation makes the audience love it, even though you have toiled hard to make it look effortless.