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10 Habits Of Happy Couples

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When you’re together, you should focus entirely on each other. 

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10 Habits Of Happy Couples

10 Habits Of Happy Couples

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Go to bed at the same time

Going to sleep at the same time is a necessity. When you go to bed together, you’re promoting healthy relationship patterns.

Find common interests

It’s important to really enjoy spending time together. 

You should have activities that the two of you look forward to doing as a couple. Whether it’s picking a new recipe to try every weekend or going for a run. Find something fun to do consistently together.

Touch

Small gestures like holding hands or putting your arm around each other increases closeness, which is always a factor in the lives of happy couples. 

When you hold hands, you’re subconsciously reminding yourself that you care about each other.

Don’t nag pointlessly

Happy couples emphasize the positive things that their partner does. This means that if something is bothering you, you have a real conversation about it. Nitpicking, nagging, or criticizing are not the way to someone’s heart.

Embrace affection

Before you leave for work in the morning, give your partner a really great goodbye kiss and say I love you. When you come home from a long day, do it again. 

People forget that the small things make a difference. When you begin your day with a loving gesture, you’re starting on a great note.

Maintain the intimacy

Nothing beats the I-can’t-keep-my-hands-off-you-and-am-so-obsessed-with-you honeymoon phase. When the honeymoon phase is over, the passion doesn’t have to also disappear. 

Happy couples work to keep intimacy and romance alive in the relationship.

Go out together

Having a date night is essential.

Date night encourages you to keep the spark alive. As silly as it sounds, getting dressed up and going out, just the two of you, keeps the excitement strong.

Enjoy each other’s company

When you enjoy each other’s company, your relationship flourishes. 

Your significant other is someone you can talk to about anything, anywhere, anytime — so make sure you take advantage of that. 

Break routines

Your relationship shouldn’t feel like a routine. Your life as a couple should be unpredictable. 

Embrace spontaneity and surprise each other with fun new activities.

Put your phones away

When you’re together, you should focus entirely on each other. 

Take a break from technology. Social media can all wait until the morning.

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The relationship is unique

Don’t compare your relationship to anyone else’s – not your parent’s, friend’s, coworker’s, or that random couple whose relationship seems perfect.  Keep in mind that all relationships have their ups and downs.

Focus on what you two share, and make your unique bond the best it can be.

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Go to bed at the same time

Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. 

They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.

Cultivate common interests

Don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. 

At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevents you from appearing too dependent.

Trust and forgiveness

If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

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Having Things to Look Forward To

Happy people tend to live active and somewhat busy lives. They meet up with friends after work, go on a hiking trip with the family on the weekend, and play tennis every Wednesday morning with a friend. 

This busy lifestyle provides an unintended but powerful source of happiness: anticipation.

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