Establish if the person in need of advice would prefer anecdotes, personal stories, short takeaways, specific examples, or fuller context.
Also, acknowledge the state of mind she or he is in—crisis mode or planning mode?
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Providing truly useful advice starts by coming from a selfless place. If you have ulterior motives, stop while you’re ahead.
Keep it real. Using real-life experience versus anecdotes or third-party tips can make your advice that much stronger.
Simply give the topline takeaway first. If the person wants more or would like you to elaborate on what you’re saying, she’ll ask. If she doesn’t, you’ll get a thank you, after which both of you can move on.
Don’t give advice if you don’t really know what you’re talking about.
Be candid with that fact and point the person in the right direction or connect him with someone who is an expert on the topic at hand.
It happens when one rushes to provide advice, which is most likely to be discarded or ignored, even if the person was asked for it.
Even with good intentions, providing advice isn’t necessarily a good idea. We normally do not welcome any advice provided to us, with a natural reflexive repulsion towards being told what is to be done by someone else.
This underscores the importance of starting on the right foot. If you upset the person you’re trying to help, they’ll wall themselves off.
It's important to use empathy, but don’t get too friendly. Take a careful balance between making someone like you and asserting your authority.
To do it right:
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