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You are part of the problem

If you have a fear of abandonment and rejection and you are constantly ‘setting’ up scenarios that lead to your disappointment, you are the puppeteer controlling this. 

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Sabotaging behaviors

Sabotaging behaviors

  • You are controlling and rigid in the way that others should treat you and are easily disappointed. 
  • You have issues with real intimacy. 
  • You tell yourself internally that this relationship will never work because you inherently feel inside that you’re not good en...

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Learning from a damaging relationship

Learning from a damaging relationship

Remember certain ‘destructive’ traits that your former partners had and try to make a conscious effort to choose a different type.

We should not only learn from the bad choices that we make but learn from the mistakes of others to avoid making them ourselves. In that way, w...

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Change your thinking patterns

  1. Have a keen awareness of your thinking patterns. When you have negative thinking you need to change it to a solution.
  2. You need to be in the business of passionately solving your problems. Try looking at the event from a different perspective.
  3. Notice when ...

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Examine your history

This goes back to your childhood. 

For example: if you’re drawn to the excitement of meeting and starting a relationship with someone who has a lack of morals, character and is untrustworthy, try to find out about how your parents’ unhealthy habits have affected your c...

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Characteristics you want

Characteristics you want

Many times, we choose a partner whose basic values are totally different than ours. It is critical that what is important to your partner matches what is important to you.

Watch for signs to determine what is important to your significant other. This can prevent the tendency...

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Stop having a victim attitude

When you see yourself as the ‘poor me’ victim, your actions will confirm a negative view of yourself.

Don’t obsess about past mistakes in life. Let go of unrealistic expectations and visions of where you ‘should be’.

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You are paranoid

When they spend time with other people without you, you fret, text constantly, experience jealousy, and ask for proof that they're being faithful. This may lead your partner to break up with you because they find you controlling.

The Five Human Fears

The Five Human Fears

Human beings have five fears that are relatively common:

  1. Fear Of Death.
  2. Fear Of Injury or mutilation.
  3. Loss of Freedom and Autonomy.
  4. Fear of separation coming from loss, rejection or abandonment.
  5. Fear of the Ego-death, from shame or humiliation.

From Protecting to Forgiving Yourself

The fear of vulnerability is ultimately a fear of rejection or abandonment. To combat it, you must first learn to love and accept yourself with all your flaws, embarrassing stories, past mistakes, insecurities and awkwardness.  

Realize that everyone feels like this, regardless...

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