6 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships - Thrive Global

If you have a fear of abandonment and rejection and you are constantly ‘setting’ up scenarios that lead to your disappointment, you are the puppeteer controlling this. 

Many times, we choose a partner whose basic values are totally different than ours. It is critical that what is important to your partner matches what is important to you.

Watch for signs to determine what is important to your significant other. This can prevent the tendency to walk into a bad situation.

When you see yourself as the ‘poor me’ victim, your actions will confirm a negative view of yourself.

Don’t obsess about past mistakes in life. Let go of unrealistic expectations and visions of where you ‘should be’.

Remember certain ‘destructive’ traits that your former partners had and try to make a conscious effort to choose a different type.

We should not only learn from the bad choices that we make but learn from the mistakes of others to avoid making them ourselves. In that way, we can move from being our own worst enemy to being our own best friend.

1. Have a keen awareness of your thinking patterns. When you have negative thinking you need to change it to a solution.
2. You need to be in the business of passionately solving your problems. Try looking at the event from a different perspective.
3. Notice when you feel an emotion about something, and then preempt the feeling before you let it completely take over in your mind.