Be available in a new way

Surprise them by agreeing to take care of a chore you usually protest/avoid; offer to accompany them on something you usually take a pass on; or surprise them with something they care about.

Surprise generosity is a huge intimacy booster.

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Do something meaningful together

Connection-deepening activities are ones that get you focused on each other as people — and on your relationship.

Take a scenic drive to get ice cream, clean the tub together, or take a cooking class.

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Invest in yourself

Investing in yourself, your wellness, and your personal development are an important part of your health as a couple. When you are feeling your best and in touch with how you are thinking and feeling, you can participate more fully, mindfully, and meaningfully.

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Be brave, not aggressive

Avoidance destroys intimacy. If you and your partner are mutually or individually avoiding a challenging topic that needs to be addressed, you are slowly eating away at your connection.

The vulnerability required to start a difficult conversation communicates to your partner that you are mo...

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Be curious

Appreciating the why of where your intimate partner is coming from is a powerful means of building empathy (without giving up your own opinion) and empathy is deeply intimate.

Making the effort to understand another person demonstrate a deep degree of caring even in the context of...

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Make a “Nice” list

Try sitting down individually or with your partner and creating gratitude or “Nice” lists, detailing as many things as possible that you appreciate and/or enjoy about your partner.

Even if you do it on your own, it will help you refocus on points of connection that drew you to them initial...

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