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Replace Self-Criticism With Self-Compassion

Instead of applying self-criticism, we need to actively practice the opposite: self-compassion. 

Self-compassion is realising that self-criticism is the enemy and then acting to reverse its negative effects. Self-compassion also helps to unlock creativity. 

The two components of self-compassion:

  1. Making a conscious effort to stop self-judgment.
  2. Actively comforting ourselves, the same as we would do with a friend in need.

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Living With Criticism

Living With Criticism

There are a number of valuable tips to help you learn to take criticism well and use it to get better at whatever you are doing:

  • Breathe.
  • Detach from the situation or event mentally.
  • Listen actively.
  • Get specific demands and relevant, constructive criticism...

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From Stagnation To Action

Letting go of our preoccupation with the trajectory of other people’s lives, we can transform our envy from a stagnant, blocking force into a powerful motivator for growth.

The tools and ideas above help us reframe our self-criticism; seeing critical thoughts for what they are and combating...

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Imposter Syndrome And Creative People

Imposter Syndrome And Creative People

Imposter Syndrome is that inner voice telling you that your work is not good enough or, even worse, that you’re useless as a person.

  • Self-criticism can really put (and keep) us down.
  • Suffering from ‘imposter syndrome’ is common among most of us.
  • Eve...

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Awfulizing

Something happens and we imagine the absolute worst. Our mind plays tricks and we start ‘awfulizing’.

To stop this:

  • First, on a piece of paper or in a journal, write down and answer the question: What I am afraid will happen?
  • Next, write down a response to ...

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Cognitive Distortions

There are a number of so-called cognitive distortions that are relevant to the Inner Critic:

  • Mental filters, or selective abstraction.
  • Tunnel vision.
  • Magnification and Minimisation or binocular trick.
  • Overgeneralizations
  • Jumping to conclusions
  • Mi...

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Seeking Positive Confirmation

Seeking Positive Confirmation

The good thing about negative confirmation bias is that it can be flipped to create a positive full-filling prophecy too.

Rather than walking around in a perpetual state of feeling that no one believes in you, you can be on the hunt for support. Take confirmation and use it as a force for...

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Recognizing The Inner Critical Voice

Recognizing The Inner Critical Voice

Awareness of your inner critical voice is crucial. This then enables you to see your critical thoughts for what they are: thoughts.

Being more aware of what your brain and mind do when sensing a potential threat in the form of being judged and receiving criticism will encourage the develop...

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CHETAN BHAGAT

Be so busy improving yourself that you have no time to criticise others.

CHETAN BHAGAT

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8. Practice self-compassion

Didn’t we just cover this? No, self-compassion is different from self-care. Self-compassion is offering yourself the same gentle words and comforting actions you’d extend to a friend who’s going through something difficult. It’s also not punishing yourself for feeling like you need someone else.

Replace Self-Criticism

Replace Self-Criticism

Our brains automatically look for evidence that matches up with what we believe about ourselves, but often disregards other evidence to the contrary.

To break this automatic tendency, deliberately say something different to yourself and then actively search for evidence that the n...

4. Eliminate self-criticism and introduce self-compassion 

4. Eliminate self-criticism and introduce self-compassion 

Since our goal is to enhance our self-esteem, we need to substitute self-criticism with self-compassion. Specifically, whenever your self-critical inner monologue kicks in, ask yourself what you would say to a dear friend if they were in your situation (we tend to be much more compassionate to fr...

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