2. Erase the other person from the equation
Either way, you're hurt. Try not to think about the person who hurt you but try to think about the situation. Try to think about what happened without putting the blame on anyone and ask yourself these questions:
Why did this happen? How was I involved? Why did I attract this to myself? How can I grow from this? How can I find compassion for everyone involved?
Take this as opportunities for growth, not pain.
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