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Forgive or Fester
The moment you decide to forgive and let your negative feelings melt away, you are on the road to freedom.
Forgiveness is all about taking care of you, not the person you need to forgive.
Holding on to resentment is like taking poison and waiting for your enemies to die.
When ou forgive someone you let yourself off the hook.
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1. Find compassion
Finding compassion for yourself or others is hard at first but in the long run, it's the only way to really heal.
People act poorly because they're hurt or confused, try to understand that and find compassion to forgive them.
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2. Erase the other person from the equation
Either way, you're hurt. Try not to think about the person who hurt you but try to think about the situation. Try to think about what happened without putting the blame on anyone and ask yourself these questions:
Why did this happen? How was I involved? Why did I attract this to myself? How can I grow from this? How can I find compassion for everyone involved?
Take this as opportunities for growth, not pain.
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3. Decide you'd rather be happy than right
Things happen, and even if you know you're right, choose to do what would make you happy in the moment. If letting the other person thinks she's right, is the way to end the problem, then so be it.
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