A Positive Motivation: Trying To Make A Connection With Someone - Deepstash

A Positive Motivation: Trying To Make A Connection With Someone

There is also a positive, unconscious motivation for making someone feel bad when they’ve hurt us that is often misunderstood and missed. When someone we are attached to seems impervious or indifferent to how we feel, trying to make them feel bad and evoke a reaction can be an instinctive, primitive effort to communicate pain, elicit empathy, and create a “felt” connection. This can happen when the need to connect is intense, but there is no way to get through and wake the other person out of their detachment or indifference or get them to feel something closer to the intensity of what we feel

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Chances are, we all are, or have been, guilty of guilt-tripping; it is, after all, a mostly unconscious act. Let’s educate ourselves about it, and let’s all serve the people in our lives a little less guilt and a little more love.

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