Get out of the “Fix-it Mode” - Deepstash

Get out of the “Fix-it Mode”

Most people struggling emotionally don’t want someone to fix their pain, they went to feel understood.

Use Reflective listening. It means that when someone tells you something, you simply reflect back to them what they said, either literally or with your own slight spin on it.

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Everyone has problems. Some are just better at hiding them than others

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