Healthy relationships generate a slew of positive benefits. Research shows, for example, that doubling your number of friends boosts your well-being as much as increasing your income by 50%. But despite humanity’s need for connection, people everywhere are experiencing increased loneliness. In 2018, 22% of American adults reported that they often or always felt isolated or lonely. The 2020 coronavirus pandemic has sent such feelings into overdrive..

The Importance Of Healthy Relationships

Ask yourself why you want to tell a story. Are you hoping to entertain, enlighten, persuade or give information to your listeners? Think about your audience’s concerns and priorities, and how your story could service those needs.

Reflect On The Purpose Of Your Storytelling

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<li>Share a secret or unexpected truth – Revealing something unexpected about yourself (provided you’re not oversharing with the wrong people) can intrigue your listeners.</li>
<li>Include vivid details – Improve your storytelling skills by sharing the details of what you could hear, see, taste, touch and smell.</li>
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Tips To Show Vulnerbility

Make a video of yourself reading something you’ve prepared, and watch it. Reflect on your performance, particularly on your effectiveness in conveying emotions. Make adjustments as necessary before attempting a live video call.

Record Yourself

Digital forms of communication abound, but social connection platforms can actually exacerbate feelings of loneliness. For example, people who passively scroll and post status updates on Facebook – as opposed to engaging with others via comments – actually feel more isolated

Connected Yet Isolated

<ul><li>If you want to strengthen your bonds with others, approach conversations with a spirit </li><li>of generosity and gratitude. Take time to show others you appreciate them by making them “feel famous.” </li><li>You see them and are grateful for their presence and contributions to the world.</li><li>A spirit of generous gratitude could completely transform the way you interact with the people in your life, if you let it.</li></ul>

Show Appreciation and Gratitude

You can overcome your feelings of loneliness by cultivating stronger listening skills, which allow you to better connect with others. 
People can be bad listeners for many reasons: They’re busy formulating responses while the other person is still talking, or they have an intense emotional reaction to something someone is saying. They might be impatient with the speed with which the other person is conveying information. Or their smartphones distract them.

Combat Loneliness by Listening to Others Without Distraction

The future workplace is hybrid, with people working both from home and in offices. Leaders will need to proactively work to help their teams feel a sense of community and social connection.

Relationships First

When the pandemic ends, people will likely hug their friends again and greet one another physically. In the meantime, people will continue to find new ways to connect digitally, such as using virtual “buddy check-in” systems to help manage feelings of isolation.

Connection Styles

You aren’t really listening if you’re busy predicting what someone is going to say next.When people repeat phrases or words, they’re often revealing their primary focus, which is valuable information.

Listening With Awareness

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<li>Use your eyes – To better understand others, pay attention to body language clues, such as your conversation partner protectively crossing his or her arms.</li>
<li>Embrace a “beginner’s mind” – Remain open-minded, letting go of any assumptions of your own expertise.</li>
<li>Ask the right questions – People view others as strong listeners when they ask thoughtful questions. Good questions typically use the words “what” and “how.”</li>
</ul>

Tips For Better Listening

Build stronger social ties by cultivating curiosity about others. Research shows that people feel closer to conversation partners who express curiosity. They also view such individuals as more attractive. Curious people care about what’s happening around them and genuinely want to hear people’s stories. They have an open-minded approach to listening, which makes them appear more trustworthy.

Elevate Your Small-Talk Skills

Focus on other people’s faces when they tell you their names. To further cement a name in your memory, ask a question about the name, such as how to spell it. Or make a connection between the name and something/someone else. You can also try using a person’s name in conversation.

Remember Names

When people express intense emotions, avoid the impulse to react emotionally too. Instead, ask neutral questions like what makes the issue so important to them.Spark your curiosity instead of falling in the emotional roller coaster.

Let Emotions Spark Your Curiosity

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<li>Share a transformational truth – If you want people to celebrate your success with you, then share the struggles and moments of conflict you faced before reaching your goal.</li>
<li>Establish your credibility – People are attracted to credible people who display vulnerability, but they’re repelled by those they perceive as lacking in competence.</li>
<li>Be genuine – People can tell when you’re trying to manipulate them with contrived stories about your vulnerable moments.</li>
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Being Vulnerable: Establish Your Crediblility By Sharing Truth

Use these strategies to minimize unproductive conflicts, navigate uncomfortable conversations and build empathy with others:
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<li>Practice – Spend a moment trying to take someone else’s perspective. Imagine how you’d feel if you were in another person’s situation.</li>
<li>Challenge yourself – Try to imagine how a person with views opposed to your own, such as someone with differing political beliefs, might feel about the situation or subject matter under discussion.</li>
<li>Recognize your biases – Everyone has unconscious biases, which can prevent people from empathizing with others.</li>
</ul>

Minimize Conflicts

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<li>Take notes – Jot down notes about new people you meet. Refer to your notes before you see them next.</li>
<li>Give people access to you – To build trust with others and make them feel valued, share something with them that you don’t share with everybody you meet.</li>
<li>Praise them – Pay people specific compliments about things they’ve done. Note concrete ways their actions positively affected you or others.</li>
<li>Celebrate milestones – Create unforgettable experiences for people to help them celebrate their milestone moments.</li>
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Tips To Make Others Feel Better

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<li>Use emojis when appropriate – Basic icons, such as thumbs-up symbols and smiley faces, help the recipient of a text-based message understand your desired tone.</li>
<li>Describe your emotions in video and voice calls – Use words to convey specific emotions. </li>
<li>Be energetic – People will find you more sincere if you communicate energetically than when you speak monotonously.</li>
<li>Don’t stare at your self-view – When you’re having video calls, hide the window displaying your own face to avoid feeling self-conscious and distracting yourself.</li>
</ul>

Become a Better Digital Communicator by Focusing on Your Intent.

Slow down and be intentional with your focus. Put away your devices. Don’t force a conversation to follow your own agenda. Instead, try asking open-ended questions, letting others direct the flow of the conversation.

Cultivate Stronger Listening Skills: Beat Distraction

People often conceal their true feelings from others when performing social roles. For example, when making a sales pitch, you might pretend to be confident when you’re actually feeling insecure. Yet a willingness to show others your authentic self is the bedrock of healthy relationships. You might assume that displaying vulnerability will cause others to view you as weak, but the reverse is true: Research shows that people like individuals who display vulnerability better than those who don’t.

Expressing Vulnerability

US surgeon general Vivek Murthy describes five forms of being alone – the first four of which can damage your mental and physical health:
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<li>Intimate loneliness – You long for someone in whom you can confide or an intimate partner.</li>
<li>Relational loneliness – You yearn for quality social companions and friendships.</li>
<li>Collective loneliness – You feel you lack a community of like-minded individuals.</li>
<li>Isolation – You’re physically alone.</li>
<li>Solitude – Unlike the first four states of being, solitude is a peaceful state of voluntary isolation, often for the purpose of self-reflection.</li>
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The Five Forms Of Being Alone

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<li>People are more connected, digitally, than ever. Yet loneliness is epidemic.</li>
<li>Combat loneliness by listening to others without distraction.</li>
<li>Elevate your small-talk skills by embracing authentic curiosity.</li>
<li>Having productive conversations about uncomfortable topics requires empathy. Show appreciation and gratitude.</li>
<li>Become a better digital communicator by focusing on your intent.</li>
<li>People will still seek out the human connection in the post-pandemic world.</li>
<li>Strengthen your connections by expressing vulnerability.</li>
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Key Takeaways

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You are one conversation away from changing your life. We all crave connection. We were never meant to live alone or communicate only in "likes" and retweets. In Every Conversation Counts, TV host and human connection keynote speaker Riaz Meghji digs deep into the dangers of isolation and loneliness, our social pandemic, that have been brought into sharp relief by the coronavirus crisis. He tackles a uniquely modern question: why are we so connected, and yet so alone--and how can we reconnect? Sharing personal insights from powerful interviews and years of on-air experience, Meghji offers 5 simple habits for building extraordinary relationships. He explains how to spark authentic conversations, win trust, create new business, and collaborate effectively. Meghji points a way forward to a better future--one in which we express genuine curiosity about others, listen with our whole hearts, show up as our authentic selves, and make every conversation count.

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You are one conversation away from changing your life. We all crave connection. We were never meant to live alone or communicate only in "likes" and retweets. In Every Conversation Counts, TV host and human connection keynote speaker Riaz Meghji digs deep into the dangers of isolation and loneliness, our social pandemic, that have been brought into sharp relief by the coronavirus crisis. He tackles a uniquely modern question: why are we so connected, and yet so alone--and how can we reconnect? Sharing personal insights from powerful interviews and years of on-air experience, Meghji offers 5 simple habits for building extraordinary relationships. He explains how to spark authentic conversations, win trust, create new business, and collaborate effectively. Meghji points a way forward to a better future--one in which we express genuine curiosity about others, listen with our whole hearts, show up as our authentic selves, and make every conversation count.

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