When two people communicate together, either person is in Chimp mode or in Human mode, alternating between these modes very quickly.Chimp mode = emotionally charged conversation and not necessarily logical.Human mode = not emotionally charged conversation, with a logical basis.Human to human - this will be logically contained.Chimp to chimp - the conversation will be highly emotionally charged, potentially involving attacks and counterattacks.

Communicating Effectively 

Want to understand whats inside your head and how it works?The human brain is complex so I will simplify it for you.Within the Chimp Management Model, we outline three parts to the brain:• Frontal - the Human• Limbic - the Chimp• Parietal - the ComputerThese 3 parts combine to form the Psychological Mind.These three parts of the brain attempt to work together, they very frequently get into conflict and struggle against eachother to gain control, with the Chimp (limbic brain) often winning!

Breakdown Of The Psychological Mind

When people have accidents that damage the frontal lobe or where they have a disorder or illness affecting the frontal lobe, their personality alters.Effectively, the Human part of the brain stops working and the new personality that presents is the Chimp. People affected in this way will become disinhibited and lose their judgement, or they can become apathetic or have outbursts of aggressive behaviour.

Science Explains The Chimp Paradox Pt1

The Psychological Mind also has a storage area for thoughts and behaviours, called the Computer, based on the Chimp Management Model.The Computer stores information that the Chimp or Human has put into it. It then uses this information to act for them in an automatic way or as a reference point.Now you have a basic understanding of whats inside your head, get this book to start your journey across the Psychological Universe.We can see how you are operating with your Human, Chimp and Computer in different circumstances and how to use them to your advantage and understand your self better.

Inside Your Mind

One of the secrets of success and happiness is to learn to live with your Chimp and not get bitten or attacked by it.To do this, you need to understand how your Chimp behaves, and why it thinks and acts in the way that it does. You also need to understand your Human and not muddle up your Human with your Chimp!

Speaking steadily helps us to get our message across in the way we intend and helps others to listen.

The Chimp is an emotional machine which we all possess. It thinks independently from us and can make decisions for us. It offers emotional thoughts and feelings that can be very constructive or very destructive! It is not either good or bad, it is a Chimp.The Chimp paradox is that it can be your best friend and your worst enemy simultaneously.The purpose of this book is to help you to manage your Chimp and to harness its strength and power when it is working for you and to neutralise it when it is working against you.

Introducing The Chimp Pt2

A basic understanding of this mindset - being an innocent, passive victim at the hands of others and circumstance, completely devoid of any responsibility/accountability and has no power to change things.The general behaviours and beliefs displayed are as follows:<ul><li>I am not responsible for my own happiness.</li><li>I am not responsible for my own decisions.</li><li>I am a victim of circumstance.</li><li>There is nothing I can do to change things.</li><li>Nobody is helping me.</li><li>Others should understand me.</li><li>Falling apart and being helpless is part of life.</li></ul>

Snow White Mindset Part 1

Successful people don't make demands from others, but set the scene, so that the Human in others may respond, rather than their Chimp.

The centre of the Square contains the 'right person'.The corners include:<ul><li>The right time</li><li>The right place</li><li>The right agenda</li><li>The right way</li></ul>

The Square Of Communication

A golden rule for understanding people and situations is to ALWAYS attempt to establish the FACTS before you make your assessment.

Be proactive and make it work to get the best out of life. Change what needs to be changed of your reality and the world you have made for your self, so that you won't be resigned to suffering any further. Find and seek support from suitably trained individuals who support you with the changes you instigate, and learn to get on with life with a genuine smile.Only you can make this choice for your self.

Returning To A Healthier Mindset Part 2

If you don't get the centre of the Square right, then you are most likely wasting your time and not doing your self any favours.This 'never ending wrong person' trail is VERY COMMON. If someone has a complaint or discussion involving a specific person, it is amazing that they go to everybody but the person to highlight and resolve issues (barking up the wrong tree).The result is that you will never be satisfied and resolve the situation, as you are wasting time and energy going down a trail of wrong people, instead of resolving the problem by approaching the person who needs to be approached.

The Never Ending Wrong Person Trail

You may fall into the trap of moaning and complaining to lots of random people, inadverdently making your self the problem. Speaking to the right person can save alot of time, effort and emotional stress! The usual reason we don't talk to the right person is due to lack of assertiveness.Being assertive means explaining to someone else what is acceptable in your world and what isn't acceptable and why. Explain this in a calm manner WITHOUT expressing emotion. In contrast to this, being aggressive is expressing emotion and behaviours that are attacking in manner in order to convey the message.

Assertiveness or aggression?

The way we present ourselves to others cannot be changed by others. We have to want to change for the better ourselves, for our self.Unrealistic expectations of others can be shown by shouting, getting frustrated easily, angry or upset often.Simply put, you need to discover who the person infront of YOU is. You can choose to help them to manage their chimp and recognise their gremlins, or you can judge them for how they are presenting themselves. The choice is yours. P127.

Mind Your World

The power over your self is with you and no.body.else

Having a Chimp is like owning a dog. You are not responsible for the nature of the dog but you are responsible for managing it and keeping it well behaved. Stop and think about this as it is crucial to your happiness and success in life.The Chimp within your head is a separate entity to you. It was born when you were born but has nothing to do with you as a Human.It is simply part of your machinery.You didn't choose your Chimp, it was given to you and you need to accept it.It has a mind of its own and thinks with original thoughts which aren't yours.Its purpose is to ensure the next generation

The Chimp Within

How many times have you talked to yourself? Reassured yourself or had battles within your own head?You often have thoughts and feelings you don't want and even carry out behaviours that you know are not really what you want to do. So why do you do it? How can you not have control over what thoughts or emotions you have and the behaviours you carry out?How can you be two different people at different times?

Science Explains The Chimp Paradox Pt2

The frontal (Human) and the limbic (Chimp) the emotional machine, are not always in agreement with eachother.Either one of these parts of your brain can run your life for you, although they try to work together, it is a problematic task.The Human and the Chimp have independent personalities with different agendas, ways of thinking and modes of operating.Effectively, there are two beings in your head!Therefore, it is important to grasp that only one of these beings is you, the Human.

Introducing The Chimp Pt1

Brain scanners show the blood supply in your brain going to the area that is being used. When you think calmly and rationally then we see the blood going to the frontal area, the Human in your head, and you become the person you want to be and truly are.When you become emotional and irrational, especially when you are angry or distressed, then we see the blood supply go to the limbic area, your Chimp. You would usually say this isn't how you want to be.The truth is that it is your Chimp, an emotional machine, that is overpowering your Human mind. Your Chimp is hijacking you!

Technology Proves The Science

They try to show you that you are selfish and owe them greatly. If challenged, they either become aggressive and accusatory or they become suitably depressed and tearful. Ofcourse, its your fault that they are depressed and tearful!These typical behaviours are shown when the Snow White sufferer has not got their way over something or another. They embrace the feeling of being hard done by and that others owe them a favour.They will make you aware of the above with subtle sighs and gestures, followed by acts of passive aggression such as silence or refusing to communicate.

Snow White Mindset Part 2

It is tough for all those involved when someone has become a Snow White sufferer. Escaping this means a real change of approach in life.The sufferer must be helped to see exactly how they are presenting themselves to others. Seek help and therapy with an empathetic and non judgemental individual, to explore and unlock the Mindset and disband the Gremlins that are dancing together. P.s. we have all occasionally developed a touch of the Snow White Mindset when we have allowed the Gremlins to move in!

Returning To A Healthier Mindset Part 1

In order to help you to keep the Snow White Mindset from developing:<ul><li>Nobody likes a victim.</li><li>Nobody owes you anything.</li><li>Everybody likes a positive acting person. </li><li>You don't have to be guilty for being happy.</li><li>Happiness is a choice that you make.</li><li>It is not selfish to take care of your happiness.</li><li>Life is what you make of it, not what it throws at you.</li><li>Everybody is responsible for their own actions.</li><li>Everybody is responsible for their own attitudes.</li><li>It is normal for adults to be assertive. </li></ul>

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Your inner Chimp can be your best friend or your worst enemy...this is the Chimp Paradox Do you sabotage your own happiness and success? Are you struggling to make sense of yourself? Do your emotions sometimes dictate your life? Dr. Steve Peters explains that we all have a being within our minds that can wreak havoc on every aspect of our lives—be it business or personal. He calls this being "the chimp," and it can work either for you or against you. The challenge comes when we try to tame the chimp, and persuade it to do our bidding. The Chimp Paradox contains an incredibly powerful mind management model that can help you be happier and healthier, increase your confidence, and become a more successful person. This book will help you to: —Recognize how your mind is working —Understand and manage your emotions and thoughts —Manage yourself and become the person you would like to be Dr. Peters explains the struggle that takes place within your mind and then shows you how to apply this understanding. Once you're armed with this new knowledge, you will be able to utilize your chimp for good, rather than letting your chimp run rampant with its own agenda.

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Your inner Chimp can be your best friend or your worst enemy...this is the Chimp Paradox Do you sabotage your own happiness and success? Are you struggling to make sense of yourself? Do your emotions sometimes dictate your life? Dr. Steve Peters explains that we all have a being within our minds that can wreak havoc on every aspect of our lives—be it business or personal. He calls this being "the chimp," and it can work either for you or against you. The challenge comes when we try to tame the chimp, and persuade it to do our bidding. The Chimp Paradox contains an incredibly powerful mind management model that can help you be happier and healthier, increase your confidence, and become a more successful person. This book will help you to: —Recognize how your mind is working —Understand and manage your emotions and thoughts —Manage yourself and become the person you would like to be Dr. Peters explains the struggle that takes place within your mind and then shows you how to apply this understanding. Once you're armed with this new knowledge, you will be able to utilize your chimp for good, rather than letting your chimp run rampant with its own agenda.

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