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Focus on Others

Focus on Others

The biggest barrier shy people have to overcome is that they have this tremendous sense of self-focus. Popular people focus on others instead of obsessing about themselves.

Popular people are genuinely interested in other people, actively learn more about them, and look for connections. 

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Popular people take charge of making dates and sending out invitations. These interactions allow them to continue to work on their social skills. Shy people wait to be asked out.

Popular people have worked at and mastered this.

  • The first step is having an opening line. The simpler the better. For example, comment on the environment.
  • The next step is introducing yourself. Include enough information that the other person can ask quest...

Popular people are aware of what’s going on around them and appear approachable. They’re interested in others and are good listeners. They also introduce people to each other by sharing details that generate conversations.

Popular people are often kind people. The notice you and might pay you a compliment. They'll ask if you need anything and help you.

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