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5 Habits Of Popular People

The  Art of a Good Conversation

Popular people have worked at and mastered this.

  • The first step is having an opening line. The simpler the better. For example, comment on the environment.
  • The next step is introducing yourself. Include enough information that the other person can ask questions.
  • The third step involves conversation exploration, where the pair or group goes from introductions to a topic. 
  • Step four is topic expansion, building on the topic at hand by focusing on what the other person is saying.
  • The final step is to end the conversation by expressing gratitude for the connection.

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