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13 Habits of Exceptionally Likeable People
Ask Questions
Avoid this by asking questions. People like to know you're listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that you are listening.
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Ask Questions
Avoid this by asking questions. People like to know you're listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that you are listening.
Put Away Your Phone
When you commit to a conversation, focus all of your energy on the conversation. Nothing will turn someone off to you like a glance at your phone.
They Are Genuine
By concentrating on what drives you and makes you happy as an individual, you become a much more interesting person.
Don’t Pass Judgment
A likeable person is open-minded. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen.
To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people’s eyes.
Don’t Seek Attention
People are averse to those who are desperate for attention.
When you speak in a friendly, confident, and concise manner, you will notice that people are much more attentive and persuadable than if you try to show them you’re important.
Be Consistent
Use Positive Body Language
Using an enthusiastic tone, uncrossing your arms, maintaining eye contact, and leaning towards the person who’s speaking are all forms of positive body language that high-EQ people use to draw others in.
Leave a Strong First Impression
Most people decide whether or not they like you within the first seven seconds of meeting you.
Strong posture, a firm handshake, smiling, and opening your shoulders to the person you are talking to will help ensure that you make a good first impression.
Greet People by Name
Likeable people make certain they use others’ names. Research shows that people feel validated when the person they’re speaking with refers to them by name during a conversation.
Make remembering people’s names a brain exercise if you have trouble with names.
Smile
People naturally (and unconsciously) mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to.
If you want people to like you, smile at them during a conversation.
Know When To Open Up
Avoid sharing personal problems and confessions too quickly.
Know Who To Touch
When you touch someone during a conversation, you release oxytocin in their brain, a neurotransmitter that makes their brain associate you with trust and other positive feelings.
You have to touch the right person in the right way to release oxytocin, as unwanted or inappropriate touching has the opposite effect.
Balance Passion and Fun
Likeable people are serious, yet friendly. They minimize small talk and gossip and instead focus on having meaningful interactions with their coworkers.
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Be Yourself And Be Ready For Rejection
Having charm is not about deceiving others. Keep strong negative feelings to yourself, do your best to reveal who you are and if you disagree with something, do so nicely.
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Be Swift and Sweet
Keep the conversation moving at a comfortable but somewhat brisk pace. Don’t cut the conversation short if things are going well, but also avoid hitting uncomfortable lulls. So when the pace starts to die down, it's time to make an exit.
On your way out make sure that the other remembers you.
A Simple Touch Can Go A Long Way
Touch is a physical way of indicating acceptance and if properly timed it can be very charming.
There's nothing wrong with a handshake when you introduce yourself, but beyond that, don't abuse touch. Stick to safe zones like the outside of the arm and upper back, and when in doubt, just stick to those handshakes.
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Likeability is a quick judgment
We make judgments about someone’s likeability, trustworthiness and competence after seeing their face for less than a tenth of a second.
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Put on a happy face
A happier face conveys trustworthiness. People will consider a smiling face as more trustworthy, warmer and sociable.
Not all is lost if your first impression has not been as good as you hoped. If you can impress someone afterwards, they will often not remember their first impression of you.
Direct your charm
Charm is defined as your likability - how pleasant it is to interact with you.
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Name memory
Calling someone by name makes a person feel recognized and appreciated.
Listening skills
Popular people do not focus on themselves, their problems, or their achievements.
They are active listeners, asking a few questions to encourage others to talk. They do not expect perfection and tolerate the weaknesses of others well.
Positive attitude
Likable people are always positive and optimistic.
They are very grateful for the things they have in life and do not focus on the things they lack.
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