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By concentrating on what drives you and makes you happy as an individual, you become a much more interesting person.
A likeable person is open-minded. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen.
To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people’s eyes.
People are averse to those who are desperate for attention.
When you speak in a friendly, confident, and concise manner, you will notice that people are much more attentive and persuadable than if you try to show them you’re important.
Using an enthusiastic tone, uncrossing your arms, maintaining eye contact, and leaning towards the person who’s speaking are all forms of positive body language that high-EQ people use to draw others in.
Most people decide whether or not they like you within the first seven seconds of meeting you.
Strong posture, a firm handshake, smiling, and opening your shoulders to the person you are talking to will help ensure that you make a good first impression.
Likeable people make certain they use others’ names. Research shows that people feel validated when the person they’re speaking with refers to them by name during a conversation.
Make remembering people’s names a brain exercise if you have trouble with names.
People naturally (and unconsciously) mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to.
If you want people to like you, smile at them during a conversation.
Avoid sharing personal problems and confessions too quickly.
When you touch someone during a conversation, you release oxytocin in their brain, a neurotransmitter that makes their brain associate you with trust and other positive feelings.
You have to touch the right person in the right way to release oxytocin, as unwanted or inappropriate touching has the opposite effect.
Likeable people are serious, yet friendly. They minimize small talk and gossip and instead focus on having meaningful interactions with their coworkers.
Keep the conversation moving at a comfortable but somewhat brisk pace. Don’t cut the conversation short if things are going well, but also avoid hitting uncomfortable lulls. So when the pace starts to die down, it's time to make an exit.
On your way out make sure that the other remembers you.
Popular people do not focus on themselves, their problems, or their achievements.
They are active listeners, asking a few questions to encourage others to talk. They do not expect perfection and tolerate the weaknesses of others well.
Research shows humans prefer cockiness to expertise. We naturally assume confidence equates with skill.
So stop saying, "I think" or "I believe." Stop adding qualifiers to your speech. Stand behind your opinions--even if they are just opinions--and let your enthusiasm show. People will naturally be more persuaded.