Have a genuine interest in getting to know a person you’re talking to and learn from them. Ask open-ended questions. It encourages the other person you're speaking with to open up.“What do you do?” followed by “Why did you choose that type of work? How did you enter that profession?” Never talk about something too personal. Practice active listening. By paying attention to the speaker’s words, you’ll create much stronger connections.
A likeable person is open-minded. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen. To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people’s eyes.
Likeable people make certain they use others’ names. Research shows that people feel validated when the person they’re speaking with refers to them by name during a conversation. Make remembering people’s names a brain exercise if you have trouble with names.
When you touch someone during a conversation, you release oxytocin in their brain, a neurotransmitter that makes their brain associate you with trust and other positive feelings. You have to touch the right person in the right way to release oxytocin, as unwanted or inappropriate touching has the opposite effect.