Give yourself permission

You can’t set good boundaries if you’re unsure of where your limits are.

Identify what you can permit and accept and what makes you feel uncomfortable or stressed.

Putting yourself first gives you the energy, peace of mind and positive outlook to be more present with others and be there for them. 

If you notice yourself slipping and not sustaining your boundaries, ask yourself what's changed. Find out what you do have control over and what you are going to do about it.

Communicating your boundaries takes practice.

Start with a small boundary that isn’t threatening to you, and then incrementally increase to more challenging boundaries.

With some people, maintaining healthy boundaries doesn’t require a direct and clear-cut dialogue.

There are other times you might need to be frank, such as with those who have a different personality or cultural background.

There are two key feelings that are red flags that you are letting go of your boundaries.

• Discomfort. Ask yourself what is causing the discomfort.
• Resentment. Resentment usually comes from being taken advantage of or not appreciated.

It’s important to communicate with the other person when they’ve crossed a boundary.

Let the other person know what in particular is bothersome to you. Do it respectfully and work together to address it.

Consider how you were raised along with your role in your family. These can become additional obstacles in setting and preserving boundaries.

Is there a healthy give and take with the people you surround yourself with?