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Mind Over Moment: 6 Tools to Build Resilience, Happiness and Success
Mindset
Our beliefs about ourselves and the stories we tell ourselves as a result of those beliefs have a profound effect on our happiness and relationships.
What stories have you been telling yourself about yourself? If they are not moving you toward your goals, it’s time to choose a new story based on your ability to grow.
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Making A Crisis Out Of Everything
Our diminishing resilience and decreasing psychological threshold of handling pain and struggle is, in turn, making everything look like a crisis.
We are making a catastrophe out of everything, getting offended at the drop of a hat, mostly for no legitimate reason other than our own ego-filled state of being.
Psychological Resilience
Psychological resilience is not about fake positivity and takes its power from our negative feelings. It makes our anger, sadness, failure and self-loathing into something useful and productive.
When we become sufficiently resilient, we are unstoppable and limitless.
Care For Someone Else
Our focus on the self has made us fearful and overwhelmed, especially in times of crisis. Part of our anxiety is the constant focus on oneself. Even if we do focus on others, it is only to judge them about how they feel about us, and what they think about us.
If instead of our inner selfishness, we find a greater cause to endure the crisis or risk, some deeper purpose or mission that eclipses our ego, then the crisis is taken care of.
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Resilience
Resilience is the the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress.
Resilient people are more likely to bounce back from stressful or traumatic situations, and they demonstrate an optimistic attitude, opting to see the lessons in failure.
Resilience is a skill
Resilience isn’t something you’re born with, but something you build.
Psychologists say it’s comprised of behaviors, thoughts and actions that anyone can learn — a skill that can be improved, just like running or speaking a new language.
Common patterns in building resilience
- Relying on others. Resilience has a lot to do with leaning on the people around you and with developing strong, supportive connections.
- Trust your own abilities. Keep a list of accomplishments you’re proud of to serve as a reminder of the times you’ve been resilient before.
- Be kind to yourself. Give yourself permission to set physical, mental and emotional boundaries.
- Change your outlook. While you can’t always control the situation, you do have control over how you respond to it. Cultivate optimism in the face of adversity.
- Take the next step, even if it’s small. Build hope. Make a list that includes a goal, steps to achieve it, potential obstacles and strategies to overcome them.