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The problem isn't that life is unfair - it's your broken idea of fairness
You’re judged by your actions
We are judged by what we can do for others. For instance, saving children or removing a tumor. Social reward is just a network effect. Reward comes down mostly to the number of people you impact.
However, we judge ourselves differently. We judge ourselves by our thoughts. “I’m a good person”. “I’m better than this.”
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Belonging To A group
Quickest way to add meaning to your life is to see your group of people more often.
Not part of a group? Join one. No groups to join? Start one. It’s as easy as texting people to...
Give Your Work A Purpose
It is less about what you do and more about how you see what you do.
Qualities a purpose needs:
- It's a stable and far-reaching goal. You need something that motivates you and that you can organize your actions around.
- It involves a contribution to the world. It makes a difference in the lives of people who don’t happen to be you.
Craft Your Story
You have a story you tell yourself about your life — whether you realize it or not.
A trend in the stories that people with meaningful lives tell themselves - redemption stories: the tellers move from suffering to salvation — they experience a negative event followed by a positive event that resulted from the negative event and therefore gives their suffering some meaning.
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Richard Koch
Life Is Math
When you feel stuck, don't blame your bad luck, the economy, your fate or other people. These things have nothing to do with you unhappiness,
You must find the patterns in whatever you’re trying to achieve.
There’s Always A Pattern
Keep searching for it. Make mistakes and learn from them. Read books to learn even more from other people’s failures.
Whatever kind of success you’re looking for, don’t stop until you’ve cracked the code.
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Good health and positive emotions
We spend a fortune on medical care but we don't get the health results we desire.
It is probably because we're overly focused on medical care, but don't invest in our social world the way we ...
High-value health care
There are low-cost interventions that are community-based that can have a significant impact on people's health down the road.
We need to be gentle on new mothers and families and provide support to help buffer the stresses that may arise. It is something every person who's listening can do something about.
Loving actions
They actually change our physiology. In one study, groups of rabbits were given a high-fat diet to establish the effects on heart health.
One group of rabbits did particularly well. The researchers looked around and discovered that one particular researcher was petting the one group of rabbits while feeding them. She was giving them love and kindness.