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If Self-Discipline Feels Difficult, Then You're Doing It Wrong

Self Discipline through Self Acceptance

  • De-link your personal failings from moral failings. You have to accept that you like to indulge occasionally and that this doesn’t necessarily make you a bad person. 
  • Accept your shortcomings, leading yourself to eventually accept yourself as you are, without guilt or shame.
  • De-couple your emotions from your moral judgments.

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