“Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm & constant.”
SOCRATES
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Diplomacy and restraint go a long way and while it's obvious we should avoid fights, we can push that further to become peacemakers. Ensure any group conflicts are sorted out by actively driving everyone towards the good side.
Most of our judgments towards our friends are wrong, and doing so leads to you being judged wrongly too.
Do not form opinions and pass judgments (not even mentally) and be happy to see your friendships blossom.
Take care of yourself. Work towards your health, expertise, skills, and hobbies and be a positive example in your group. Make efforts to be happy and healthy in a progressive way and this will impact your relations.
Be mysterious and surprising, and not an open book to your friends.
You become more likable and sought after, and meeting you is more fun for your friends too.
Most of us want to be popular and resort to tactics like showing of and gossiping. The long term affects of being a gossip monger (losing trust and respect) outweigh any short term popularity you get.
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Understand why some friends stay for years, while others fade away after a few months, or weeks.
If you understand the nature of the friendship you have with a person, you can better predict where it’s heading, and better understand why this friend behaves the way they do.
Friendships need to be carefully acquired to avoid negative influences. Friendships need a continuous effort that can be difficult to manage. They will go through ups and downs and will be subject to time pressure and geographical constraints.
However, our ability to form friendships is critical and a fundamental part of who we are.
Some of the reasons why we are not that good at friendships is the fact that we don't have a clear idea of what a really good friend might be like.
Maybe we should try to come up with a list of traits for an ideal friend, so as to focus our desires to acquire the sort of character we would want to find in others.
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