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You're Not Stuck That Way - Nat Eliason

Learned Helplessness

This is a mental state where, as a result of a certain bad experience, we believe that we can’t do anything about a certain problem.

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You're Not Stuck That Way - Nat Eliason

You're Not Stuck That Way - Nat Eliason

https://www.nateliason.com/blog/youre-not-stuck-that-way

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Past Deciding The Future

We let our knowledge and experiences of the past project into our future, by making concrete predictions that this or that cannot happen due to what happened in the past.

But life is constantly changing, flowing like a river, and does not follow past patterns.

Learned Helplessness

This is a mental state where, as a result of a certain bad experience, we believe that we can’t do anything about a certain problem.

Negative Motivation

We can start to feel helpless when we see people fail in a certain plan, and this could start acting as a negative motivation in our minds.

Reaffirming Negative Beliefs

When you reaffirm your own belief that you can’t change certain things, you’re putting that belief inside the people around you. And you're especially impacting your loved ones.

Move Towards A Growth Mindset

Move out of the fixed mindset, where you are stuck in inaction, towards a growth mindset.

In a growth mindset, you see obstacles as steps to success and everything seems to have a solution.

Positive Action

If you choose to change your life, even if you don’t know how to, you will figure it out. A solution-based and action-oriented approach will change the situation to your favor.

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Here are five stories from five different people that reveal the mindsets of the most successful among us.1. You Always Have a Choice Ursula Burns was raised by her single mother in the projects of New York in the 1960s and '70s.

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You Always Have a Choice

You have no control over things like the place you were born, your biological sex, the situation of your family or your skin color. These things will obviously impact your life in major ways.

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"Inspiration is for amateurs. The rest of us just show up and get to work. Every great idea I’ve ever had grew out of work itself.”

Adopt a Bias Towards Action

Most people's approach to work motivation goes like this: they wait to be inspired, then they get to work.

But successful people don’t sit around and wait for inspiration. They just show up and get to work.

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What's a 'growth mindset' (and why does it matter)?

What's a 'growth mindset' (and why does it matter)?

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As Matthew sat in his boss's office, learning why he was being fired, he wondered how it had come to this. When he was younger, he was often lauded for being exceptional-teachers told him he was one of the smartest kids they'd taught. But when his first adult job brought new challenges, he crumbled .

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Fixed vs. Growth Mindset

Growth Mindset:

  • tend to understand basic abilities as malleable, and believe they can be developed over time.
  • love new challenges and view setbacks as opport...
How to change your mindset

The 3 steps to encourage a change in mindset:

  1. Observe your mindset.
  2. Challenge your beliefs
  3.  Build a “growth” muscle.
Observe your mindset
You can’t begin to change a “fixed” mindset until you recognize it. 

Notice if you rush to conclusions about fundamental abilities:

  • Do you tell yourself that you’re no good at a particular task, so there’s no point attempting it ? 
  • Do you believe that success in certain kinds of activities are reserved for people who are naturally gifted?
  • Do you worry that if you try your hardest and fail at something, you’ll be exposed as “no good”?

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'My brain feels like it's been punched': the intolerable rise of perfectionism

'My brain feels like it's been punched': the intolerable rise of perfectionism

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Tom Nicol thought he had a problem with sleep. He could never get enough. He took "a very disciplined, stripped approach" to his routine. He drank water only at premeditated times, ate according to schedule, avoided caffeine, exercised (but not close to bedtime) and shut down all screens at 9pm.

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Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a personality trait, which can be an endless pursuit of high standards in every area of our lives, but can also be a 'disorder' like condition or a phobia, akin to '

Constant Mental Punishment

The trait of perfectionism constantly makes a person judge, compare and criticize suboptimal decisions or mistakes in any aspect of the daily routine.

A person starts having mental difficulties, striving to do everything the perfect way, but falling short eventually.

The Voice In The Head

Perfectionism is a voice in our head, constantly fed by the media and society's ideals, coaxing us into doing things in the best way, to get the desired results. 

It is useful in its purpose but in extremities can have negative effects on the body and mind.