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Most people are bad at arguing. These 2 techniques will make you better.

Listen

Your ideological opponents want to feel like they've been heard. The key is to let the opposition do most of the talking.

People learn lessons better when they come to the conclusion themselves. Listen to people, get them to think about their own experience, and highlight your common humanity. Letting them talk opens the door to reducing prejudice and changing opinions.

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