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Here's how to crack your New Year's resolutions | David DeSteno

Emotions

Our emotions motivate us more than willpower.

If we are generous, fair and co-operative, we have an invaluable tool to motivate us to complete our goals. If we cultivate good character, compassion, and honesty, it leads to a better chance of success in our endeavors.

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Here's how to crack your New Year's resolutions | David DeSteno

Here's how to crack your New Year's resolutions | David DeSteno

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/jan/01/heres-how-to-crack-your-new-years-resolutions

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A Low Success Rate

New Year Resolutions typically show a low success rate, as 10% of them actually succeed.

The reason for this low rate might be our basic instincts and temptations: people give into temptations that conflict with their long-term goals about one out of every five times they try to resist - a figure that rises rapidly if they're tired, busy or stressed.

Willpower

If we strive to succeed it usually requires hard work. And hard work to achieve your desired goals requires willpower.
Willpower, while important, isn't the only thing required for success.

Emotions

Our emotions motivate us more than willpower.

If we are generous, fair and co-operative, we have an invaluable tool to motivate us to complete our goals. If we cultivate good character, compassion, and honesty, it leads to a better chance of success in our endeavors.

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