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How to Use "Solomon's Paradox" to Make Better Decisions

Accept your Objective Wisdom

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Accepting the wisdom that comes from being objective is critical, though it may mean coming in terms with yourself.

Distancing yourself from the situation gives you clarity, but the bitter truth that emerges should not be disregarded.

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