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How to Use "Solomon's Paradox" to Make Better Decisions
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Solomon's Paradox
Solomon's Paradox suggests that we reason about other people's social problems in a better way as our outlook has a certain distance.
This paradox is evident when we cannot see our own problems with the same clarity and objectivity.
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Get some Distance
Our emotions take precedence in our own problems due to our narrow viewpoint.
- If we imagine that instead of us, it's someone else whom we are advising, we may have a more objective suggestion.
- Talking to yourself in the third person also puts us in a witnessing mode.
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Accept your Objective Wisdom
Accepting the wisdom that comes from being objective is critical, though it may mean coming in terms with yourself.
Distancing yourself from the situation gives you clarity, but the bitter truth that emerges should not be disregarded.
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Act on your Wisdom
The self-advise that is now accepted, has to be acted upon.
Action is crucial after you objectively understand and accept the problem.
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What Self-Reflection Is
Is the process of thinking back on previous events and interpreting them through your experience.
It’s about taking a step back and reflecting on your life, behavior and beliefs....
The Importance of Self-Reflection
- It improve self-awareness.
- It allows you to understand and see things from a different point of view.
- It allows you to respond, not react.
- It facilitates a deeper level of learning.
- It improves confidence.
- It makes you challenge your assumptions.
The Process of Self-Reflection
- STOP: Take a step back from life or a particular situation.
- LOOK: Identify and get perspective on what you notice and see.
- LISTEN: Listen to your inner guide, the innate wisdom that bubbles up when you give it time and space to emerge.
- ACT: Identify the steps you need to take moving forward to adjust, change or improve.