#4. Show interest in small talk
- Most people won’t open up to you about the big things in their lives if you don’t express interest in their little day-to-day happenings.
- Ask people about their kids. Ask them how their job is going. Keep up-to-date with your local sports teams. Hell, even stop to talk to the woman at your corner deli about the weather.
- These conversations may be boring, but they matter. And when done consistently they open the door for real talk to eventually take place.
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These tips will help introverts to get in the conversation and take most out of it.
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