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How To Give And Receive Constructive Criticism

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It is sad that all advice is autobiographical, and this, in part, is what is meant. We interpret what we see based on our own life experiences, assumptions, preferences, priorities, and implicit rules about how things work and how one should be. I understand your life through the lens of my life; my advice for you is based on me.

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The supportive mirror shows us our best self well rested and under flattering light. We go to supportive mirror for reassurance. Yes how we acted in that moment was not a pretty picture but it’s not how we really look. It’s not a big deal it’s a bad picture of you thro...

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“Creating pull is about mastering the skills required to drive our own learning. It’s about how to recognize and manage our resistance how to engage in feedback conversations with confidence and curiosity and even when the feedback seems wrong how to find insight that ...

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Interesting. When we give feedback we notice that the receiver isn’t good at receiving it. When we receive feedback we notice that the giver isn’t good at giving it.

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So the switchtrack dynamic has four steps: we get feedback; we experience our relationship trigger; we change the topic to how we feel and step four we talk past each other. To get better and managing our impulse to switchtrack we have to get better at understanding th...

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One principle for how we recognize our experiences is this: we are usually the sympathetic hero of the story. In his speech to a graduating class at Kenyon, writer David Foster Wallace observed that there is “no experience you’ve had that you were not at the absol...

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But get this: When we ourselves speak, the STS (superior temporar suculud) turns off. We don't hear our own voice, at least not the same way we hear everyone else.

This explains why we are so often surprised when we get feedback b...

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The supportive mirror shows us our best self well rested and under flattering light. We go to supportive mirror for reassurance. Yes how we acted in that moment was not a pretty picture but it’s not how we really look. It’s not a big deal it’s a bad picture of you thro...

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Intersections-_-differences in preferences, tendencies, and traits that

cause us to bump into each other--account for a significant proportion of the friction and feedback in both personal and professional relation.

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Feedback

Broadly, feedback comes in three forms appreciation (thanks), coaching (here’s a better way to do it), and evaluation (here’s where you stand.)

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We believe that the ability to receive feedback well is not an inborn trait but a skill that can be cultivated. It may be fraught but it can be thought whether you currently think of yourself as someone who receives feedback well or poorly you can get better.

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