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The Red Flag: Getting Defensive

The Red Flag: Getting Defensive

Keep in mind that how they answer your interview questions is at least as important as what they say. Keep a close eye out for defensiveness… If you ask your therapist a question about themselves and they get defensive, that’s a huge red flag—and sadly, more common than you would think.

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Finding The Right Match For Your Therapy

Finding The Right Match For Your Therapy

Good therapy can be an incredibly powerful and transformative experience, but it’s often not a very positive experience.

Sometimes this is the therapist’s fault. Many therapists are not trained well enough or have so much of their own personal baggage or odd personality quirks that they can...

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You Don’t Have to Explain Your Life Story Right Away

You Don’t Have to Explain Your Life Story Right Away

Many people avoid starting therapy or test driving lots of therapists because they’re understandably hesitant to dredge up all the painful details of their past over and over again to complete strangers. But you don’t have to get into all of that right away. Some context about your background is ...

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Interviewing Your Therapist

Interviewing Your Therapist

An initial consultation is a chance for them to learn about you and your goals and make sure it’s a good fit for them. But this is also your opportunity to interview your therapist and figure out if they’re a good fit for you. So be bold and ask lots of questions: How would you describe your ...

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Many of The Best Therapists Don’t Take Insurance

Many of The Best Therapists Don’t Take Insurance

Like it or not, therapy is a marketplace. This means if a therapist is in demand enough to avoid all the hassles of working with insurance companies, they probably will. And while demand for a therapist isn’t a guarantee of talent or quality, it’s actually a pretty good signal.

Of course, ...

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Be Prepared to Go for Some Test Drives

Be Prepared to Go for Some Test Drives

There’s no easy way to find a therapist who will be a good match for you. Like dating, it’s largely a numbers game. You need reps experiencing different people and styles to find what works for you. So don’t be afraid to talk with someone a handful of times and move on if it’s not a good fit.

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Credentials Are Overrated

Credentials Are Overrated

Don’t worry too much about whether your therapist is a psychiatrist or psychologist, has a PsyD, MSW, or PhD. It’s important that they are licensed. And that they have experience and training appropriate to your goals. Pay more attention to personal factors like personality, communication style, ...

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Look for the 2Cs: Comfort and Challenge

Look for the 2Cs: Comfort and Challenge

There is one majore common factor seen over and over again in particularly good therapists: They’re able (and willing) to provide both comfort and challenge. When you’re with them you feel supported, understood, and genuinely cared about. And at the same time, th...

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Don’t Expect to Be Saved or Fixed

Don’t Expect to Be Saved or Fixed

You are responsible for doing most of the work in therapy. A great therapist helps you do the work—but they can’t do it for you. Many people make bad decisions choosing therapists because, deep down, they’re looking for a magician who will offer some secret insight or hand them a special tool tha...

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Be Careful of “eclectic” Therapists

Be Careful of “eclectic” Therapists

It’s common to come across therapists who describe themselves as eclectic, meaning they use a variety of tools and approaches from different schools of thought and modalities. This isn’t bad necessarily. And having a therapist who’s open-minded and not dogmatically tied to a particular t...

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What You Sow Is What You Reap

What You Sow Is What You Reap

This is especially true of the initial “pre-work” of researching, interviewing, and test-driving different therapists. Remember, there’s nothing magical about therapy. People who benefit from therapy long-term are usually the ones who are willing to stick with it. Not necessarily with one therapi...

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Therapy Is Not Always the Answer

Therapy Is Not Always the Answer

Many people get more benefits out of a good self-help book at the right time than years of psychotherapy. For some, medication seems to work more effectively than therapy.

Others just need a real friend, not...

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