Very few of the characteristics mentioned were genetically determined and you don’t need to be extroverted to be considered fun. For instance, you do not need to be the life of the party to make other people feel included, or to create wonderful memories, or to appreciate the small things in life...

The primary thing that separates people who attract fun from their peers is their attitude. They approach life in general with a “fun mindset”.

Having a fun mindset refers to the habit of intentionally approaching and reacting to your life in a way that is attractive to fun — or, more speci...

'Yes, and” is a technique (and philosophy) derived from improv comedy in which you respond to new ideas and suggestions by agreeing with them (the “yes”) and building on them (the “and”). 

You are supposed to agree and then add something of your own. If one person says ‘

Being appealing has also got to do with the way the fun folks made other people feel in their presence. For example:

• You never feel judged by them.

• They make everyone feel included.

• They’re considerate of others’ feelings.

• They get excited with you.

• They cr...

Another way to develop a fun mindset is to regularly — and explicitly — ask yourself, “How could I add a bit of playfulness, connection or flow to whatever I’m doing or experiencing right now?”

You can do this whether you’re with other people or alone, and your ideas don’t have to be earth-...

People don’t want to have a boring life, or even a boring conversation. They’re just risk averse. If you create an environment where there’s no reason to be afraid, all of a sudden, things loosen up.

Everyone wants to have fun; they just don’t know how.

The more you cultivate your ow...

Another way to build a fun mindset is to create more moments of everyday connection by sending out more play signals — i.e., things we do to let other creatures know that we are being playful and that our intentions are friendly, and to invite them to respond with playfulness, too.

One of t...