Take responsibility

When someone admits they are bad at something, they will probably be more respected.

Accept who you are, faults and all.

When you take responsibility for your problems, you're in control of the solution. When you blame others, you’re handing over control to someone else. And you cannot control them.

Taking up responsibility shows that you accept reality for what it is and set out to work with what you have. 

Human beings tend to have two kinds of conflicting mindsets:

• The Higher Mind, the conscious truth-seeking mind, has made human beings an advanced civilization.
• The Primitive Mind is our hardwired, thousands-of-years-old survivalist part, the one that's still stuck in the dark ages.

Our Higher Mind and the Primitive Mind always have a tug-of-war like conflict. The degree of the conflict can be placed in a spectrum, which is called a Psych Spectrum.

If the Higher mind is in control, we are placed higher in the Psych Spectrum and have the Primitive Mind under check. If we are placed at a lower degree in the Psych Spectrum, then the Primitive Mind is under control.

Taking secularization into account, the idea that we don't live in order to obtain some kind of salvation in the afterlife leads to the belief that we have to achieve everything we desire in the here and now.

If we miss out on anything in this life, it is seen as some kind of existential failure. Carried to an extreme, it is tragic because it's rarely a recipe for a good life.

We gain from it the chance to engage in activities and experiences that are deeper and more meaningful. Because the mentality of fearing that we will miss out makes us always worried that something better might be waiting for us.

And moving through life, where everything becomes a means to the next thing, prevents us from understanding that certain things are inherently valuable and meaningful in and of themselves.

• Creative types of people, such as artists and writers, are more likely to be considered "odd or peculiar" as children.
• Being considered "weird" in your culture can also raise an element of creativity called integrative complexity. Outsiders are less concerned with what the in-crowd thinks, so have more leeway to experiment. They are freer to innovate and change social norms.
• Unusual experiences may boost creativity. People often report having breakthroughs after extreme adventures that interferes with rules and expectations.

Unusual viewpoints can boost the decision-making power of a broader group.

Experiments reveal that people are more willing to conform when they are in a group for fear of being seen as peculiar. However, when someone is willing to stand out, the dissenter appears to give the others permission to disagree.

The struggle to establish a side hustle includes converting previously nonwork time to dedicate to it. 

To lessen the impact, create a schedule considering your situation and tendencies, like your most productive time of the day and what activity would create less damage if sacrificed.

Having people that you can vent to or ask for guidance is key to making any venture a success. Even if you choose to fly solo, surround yourself with people you can talk to, bounce ideas off of, and get genuine feedback from.

Scour your network for people in the same industry, reach out to mentors, and even ask close friends or co-workers for their honest opinions. 

8 hours of sleep/night is a useful goal, but it’s not true that everyone needs that. 

A lot of people get obsessed with this goal of getting 8 hours of sleep every single night, and because they’re someone who just doesn’t need that much sleep, or they can’t reliably sleep that long, they get anxious about it and that actually creates issues with insomnia.

• not drinking caffeine after midday;
• not exercising too late;
• not drinking alcohol before bed;
• eating sensibly;
• leaving mobile devices outside the bedroom (artificial light disrupts the brain).

If doing natural things like this doesn’t work, then it might be wise to consult with a specialist or a doctor.

• Most people think of self-discipline in terms of willpower only, which is wrong.
• Individuals who are able to follow the set rules of self-discipline also tend to be the ones who enjoy the routine.
• To succeed in your self-discipline routine, your willpower must be trained steadily over a long period of time.

• Disciplining people through shame and guilt works well in society, and natural impulses/ instincts being suppressed by religion and philosophers.
• The curbing of our natural instincts is a method employed to protect us from our over-indulgence and from our own natural desires.

If your only friends are your friends at work, it'll be more challenging to avoid work on evenings and weekends. If you do have coworkers as close friends, consider setting some boundaries around work talk.

Try to avoid getting drawn into office drama, as it will increase the time you spend talking and thinking about work.

Speak up when your workload is too much. Tell your boss if you are stretched too thin or when you regularly work too many hours. Talk about what you can reasonably get done in a week.

Also, don't say yes to everything. If you have a hard time saying no, don't respond immediately. Instead say, "Let me get back to you", or, "Let me think about that."

We need to protect our brain from negativity, hatred, and racism that we see all around us.

The outside world and its many twisted problems, shown to us 24/7 aren't helping us or our family in any positive way.

Our daily lives are filled with ugliness, and forgiveness is the key to survival in this age.

Instead of trying to fix everything, just remain calm, forgive and move on. This is one of the surest ways to get your happiness back.