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Don't Use Authenticity as an Excuse to Be Cruel

Know yourself

You can only know yourself if you are honest and accepting of all the parts of you.

  • Acknowledge the good parts about yourself. This can include strengths, talents, knowledge, skills.
  • Don't overlook the bad parts. The bad of you will hurt others and sabotage your path toward a meaningful life.
  • There might also be ugly parts, like being awkward, off-putting, or distracting from the good.

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Don't Use Authenticity as an Excuse to Be Cruel

Don't Use Authenticity as an Excuse to Be Cruel

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Key Ideas

Authenticity is under threat

The idea of authenticity has been changed into an excuse to be cruel without feeling bad about it.

Reclaiming authenticity is essential because it is a key piece of a meaningful life.

Authenticity

Authenticity is about being your true self and not pretending to be someone else. It is also the way to take ownership and refine and improve your true self toward the best you can become.

Therefore, if your true self is aggressive, entitled or immature, you don't have permission to mistreat others.

Know yourself

You can only know yourself if you are honest and accepting of all the parts of you.

  • Acknowledge the good parts about yourself. This can include strengths, talents, knowledge, skills.
  • Don't overlook the bad parts. The bad of you will hurt others and sabotage your path toward a meaningful life.
  • There might also be ugly parts, like being awkward, off-putting, or distracting from the good.

Work in progress

You are an imperfect work in progress. Be comfortable giving free rein to the good parts of yourself, limit and reform the bad parts, and refine the ugly.

Observe, absorb, and learn

Pay attention around you as you work on first knowing, then working on yourself.

  • What happens when you let your best loose?
  • When are you better and restraining the bad?
  • How are people responding to your efforts to refine your ugly?
  • Are there ways to better express the good, take responsibility for the bad and tweak the ugly?

    Finding your true self

    People feel a greater sense of meaning in life when they are able to be their true selves. To reveal the true self:

    • Think of only those traits you are able to express around those people you are closest to.
    • Now think of only those characteristics that you possess and are often able to express to others in social settings.

    The distance between your answer to the true-self and the social settings prompt is how far you have to go to become authentic. Ultimately, the way we act around those who are closest to us is how we should act around everyone.

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    “My goal is to build a life I don’t need a vacation from.”

    Rob Hill Sr.

    Be authentic

    Make choices leading to the life you want to create for yourself. Don't let your past hold you back. 

    Your life might not seem to be the best fit for someone else, but it should a life you are happy with. Create a life you love.

    How to create an authentic life

    Start where you are right now. 

    • Align your life with your own core values - those things that are most important to you personally. Regular meditation will help you discover what those are.
    • Find time to do the activities you loved doing as a child. Join an activity group or take a class. 
    Listen to yourself and take action on what you discover.

    Finding happiness at work

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    Portrait of people who are happy in life

    • They have an easy time feeling good and recovering from adversity
    • they have close, supportive social connections
    • they believe that their presence in the world matters.

    4 key pillars of happiness at work

    1. Purpose. Our purpose is a reflection of our core values, and we feel more purposeful at work when our everyday behaviors and decisions are aligned with those values.
    2. Engagement. Prioritise some fun. Take ownership of decisions that affects you. Adopt a flow at work.
    3. Resilience. The ability to handle, adapt to, and productively learn from setbacks, failures, and disappointments.
    4. Kindness. Being kind at work involves treating others with dignity and respect, extending empathy and compassion, practicing gratitude, and constructively managing conflicts.