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Forget "Balance." The Secret to Happiness is Alignment.
Taking Responsibility for our Life
Most of us have been bought up to behave in a certain socially acceptable and normal way, and we simply stick to the script and 'fit' ourselves in a certain mold, living a stereotyped life.
We need to take responsibility for creating a life that makes sense for us, as we are the authors of our own lives.
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Balance
Most people believe that balancing their lives, making sure everything is in the right proportions, whether it's work, family, social life, finances, etc., is the key to happiness.
The problem with 'balance' is that it is based on society's norms and values.
Alignment
Creating a joyful and fulfilling life isn't about balance, but about Alignment. An Alignment of our lives can:
- Clarify our values and priorities.
- Remove any noise or distraction of other's expectations.
- Help us find the flow in life.
- Make us let go of things that cause friction.
- Bring order to life, rather than just trying to be everywhere, doing everything for everyone.
Taking Responsibility for our Life
Most of us have been bought up to behave in a certain socially acceptable and normal way, and we simply stick to the script and 'fit' ourselves in a certain mold, living a stereotyped life.
We need to take responsibility for creating a life that makes sense for us, as we are the authors of our own lives.
Asking for Specialized Help
The people we normally speak to regarding our lives: our partners, friends or family members, usually have their own set of agendas and assumptions.
Getting professional help to sort out your life is one of the best ways to heal and remember who we are.
No Fear
Aligning your life requires courage. Deciding what you care about and not being afraid to make difficult choices is the way forward.
We all have our logical reasons and excuses postponing difficult decisions, but true courage is in making the right move.
Direction
Life isn't perfect for anyone, and being your best self makes the daily challenges, struggles, and stress easier to handle.
You need to step back and look at the big picture, finding out if the elements of your life are lined up with what matters to you and what you believe in. Alignment is not about perfection, but direction.
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- Create some space, carving out a few hours or a weekend when unclear about something.
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- Write down your experiences and insights.
- Take action first, and get clarity. Reflect on your actions and get further clarity.
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Your life has moved on—maybe it’s time for the decoration to do the same. Keeping just the items that mean the most to you will help them to shine.
Reject the convenience fallacy
There are certain places in our homes we tend to leave items out for convenience. By leaving these things out, we think we’re saving time and simplifying our lives. That’s the convenience fallacy.
W might save a couple of seconds, but the other 99.9 percent of the time, those items just sit there creating a visual distraction.
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