Forget "Balance." The Secret to Happiness is Alignment.

The people we normally speak to regarding our lives: our partners, friends or family members, usually have their own set of agendas and assumptions.

Getting professional help to sort out your life is one of the best ways to heal and remember who we are.

Most of us have been bought up to behave in a certain socially acceptable and normal way, and we simply stick to the script and 'fit' ourselves in a certain mold, living a stereotyped life.

We need to take responsibility for creating a life that makes sense for us, as we are the authors of our own lives.

Creating a joyful and fulfilling life isn't about balance, but about Alignment. An Alignment of our lives can:

• Clarify our values and priorities.
• Remove any noise or distraction of other's expectations.
• Help us find the flow in life.
• Make us let go of things that cause friction.
• Bring order to life, rather than just trying to be everywhere, doing everything for everyone.

Most people believe that balancing their lives, making sure everything is in the right proportions, whether it's work, family, social life, finances, etc., is the key to happiness.

The problem with 'balance' is that it is based on society's norms and values.