Being left alone or not being able to have a fulfilling relationship with one person is a perfect opportunity for self-discovery and self-examination.Instead of waiting for the other person to suddenly start loving you (an external event you cannot control) you are much better off understanding the situation objectively, absorbing the learning it brings. Love can come from diverse sources if you are open to life, alternatives and possibilities.
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