While comparing yourself to others can cause serious harm to your life, there are some tips you can use in order to avoid this behaviour.
Among these tips, some of the most interesting refer to how to become aware of the negative effects this comparison has on your life, practise gratitude, learn to admire and learn from others or focus on yourself- so you can become a better version of yourself.
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Individuals have always had the tendency to compare themselves to others. However, this can only have negative effects on our life: it deprives you of joy, it makes you lose precious time that could have been better used otherwise, it results in frustration and hate towards the one you are comparing yourself with and even towards yourself.
If you find the external upward social comparisons de-motivating, it is a good idea to shift your focus inwards, and compare your past with your present, while keep pushing yourself every week, month and year. Having a written record of your performance creates a tangible comparison chart to work with.
Downward comparisons help us find motivation when we are feeling low, as it gives perspective. They also provide us with an urge to help others in need, igniting our energies to mentor and support those in need.
Not only are we unhappy but the other people are as well. They are probably comparing themselves to you.
At worst, when we compare ourselves to others we end up focusing our energy on bringing them down instead of raising ourselves up.
The focus of comparing your emotions is often to minimize ether what you are feeling or what they are feeling. some examples include:
But someone else's experiences do not negate your own. In such cases, comparing feelings is a way of minimizing your own experiences.
This is something that you might do to avoid feeling a negative emotion. Rather than face it, it is easier to dismiss it as being "not as bad as it could be."