• Childhood source: when caregivers consistently fulfill a baby’s physical and emotional needs
• Adulthood charactrristics: able to trust others and be trusted, love and accept love, and become close to others with relative ease.

They're not ...

A secure attachment style doesn’t mean you can take for granted that your relationships will be smooth sailing. If two securely attached people are in a relationship, they’re starting out from a better position, but relationships take work for everyone, no matter your attachment style.

Actively observing your own emotions and considering how you pull away from others will require a lot of work. But that effort can be an eye-opening way to help understand your style and learn to let others in.

An attachment style is a specific pattern of behavior in and around relationships.

According to attachment theory, first developed by psychologist Mary Ainsworth and psychiatrist John Bowlby in the 1950s, a person's attachment style is shaped and developed in early childhood in response to...

Some people who have a disorganized attachment style can often benefit from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), a type of talk therapy that’s especially helpful for people who experience very intense emotions. 

People with an anxious attachment can benefit from what we call ‘rituals of separation, like texting during the day to tell that we're thinking of them. They make a conscious effort to acknowledge that they’re leaving and also that they will be back.

• Childhood source: when a caregiver doesn’t provide a baby with sufficient emotional support
• Deepest fear: Intimacy
• Adulthood characteristics distant, emotionally unavailable, may find relationships suffocating and avoid the...

• Childhood source: When primary caregivers aren’t consistent in meeting a baby’s needs 
• Deepest fear: Abandonement
• Adulthood characteristics: neediness or clingy behaviour

People with an anxious attachment style te...